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Our Father, Who Always Remembers

For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 8:38,39

I have a friend who doesn’t know me anymore. Sometimes she remembers me, but she often asks how far I am in school. She has dementia. I remind her that I’m not in school, I’m all done. I make her some peach tea, it’s one of her favorite things. She asks me if I need anything. I tell her no, I’m fine. We sit together. She’s good company. We watch T.V. and comment on the shows. She asks lots of questions, often repeating herself, I answer as best I can. On bad days, I try to keep her calm and distract her from her worries. On good days, we reminisce, and I see glimpses of her fiercely independent self. She makes me laugh and she likes to laugh too.

She served in the Army, before women serving in the military was popular. After that, she worked for the Post Office. By the time we met she had been retired for many years and I had 2 little boys. We first met, about 10 years ago now, through Bible study. A short time after that, we lead a women’s Bible study together. We enjoyed getting together for lunch. But, I especially remember and treasure our times of preparing for Bible study. It was in the home where I sit with her now, we would discuss how the evening would go and make sure everything was ready.

She moved away for several years and when she came back, less than two years ago, she was changed, and I was too.

I try to imagine what it would be like to experience this kind of loss. To have been strong in certain areas, and to then have to depend on someone else to accomplish the same things that came easily to you before. I do have some experience with this, as I have many of my own weaknesses. Things I was once strong at, that now seem illusive to me. Being dependent on someone else. Being afraid that you won’t have what you need, when you need it. I have only lost capacity in a couple of areas, where my friend has lost capacity in many. How frightening it must be, to be utterly dependent on another person for virtually every aspect of your life, not only physical things, but even knowing your own identity.

She has a good daughter, who loves her and is kind. She takes care of her needs, and reminds her of who she is.

I have a good Father, who loves me and is kind.  He takes care of my needs and reminds me of who I am. My identity is found in him. I am utterly dependent on Him, for all of my daily needs.

Indeed, the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows.” Luke 12:7

My friend also has this good Father, the same Father as me. We’re sisters in Christ. He cares for her and for me. He doesn’t forget, even when we do. He always remembers us, and reminds us who we are. We are both utterly dependent on him.

Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne?
Though she may forget, I will not forget you!
See, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands; your walls are ever before me.” Isaiah 49:15,16

Our good Father has given us this season to help each other. To lean on one another and enjoy each other’s company. For me, this season has brought about many changes and hard things, and the friendships that have grown with these two women have been like a healing balm to my soul. And I pray that I have been a benefit to them too.

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